How much should I piss him off

Partner's anger

Just take note of his anger.

Do not relate the anger to yourself.

Ask for.

Is there anything i need to know Is your bad mood anything to do with me?

Asking once is usually enough. If there is no answer, leave it at that. The more you bombard him with questions, the more likely he is to pull back.

Offer him help.

"Can I do something to make you feel better again?"

Asking once is usually enough. If there is no answer, leave it at that.

Go your own way.

Take care of your own satisfaction. Do something you enjoy. Leave your partner to himself. He has obviously chosen the path of getting over his anger on his own.

When your partner expresses anger at you

Let's assume that your partner is attacking, accusing you, or otherwise talking to you in some inappropriate way.

What can you do if your partner is mad or angry at you and also expresses their anger at you?

Important, the following strategies do not apply when you are physically attacked and your life is in danger.

Build in a time buffer.

There's no need to react to your partner in milliseconds. First take several deep breaths.

Stand upright or sit up straight and feel the soles of your feet touch the ground. Or use an affirmation like, "I'm sure. He's just angry right now."

If you do not respond immediately to the attack, you will be able to have a clearer thought.

Try to understand exactly what your partner is telling you.

Respond to his comment. Ask how he means something, what exactly he is trying to say and what specific situation he is referring to.

Are you trying to find out what exactly is he thinking to get so mad at you?

Give him an okay on his point of view.

Your partner speaks only of their point of view and not of facts. So you can agree with him that he experienced or sees it this way.

Approach it with the attitude, "Fine, so that's his perspective on the situation." You can understand his opinion and still stick to your opinion.

Formulate your point of view and express it in a calm tone.

If you speak in a calm tone and make your statement, the chances are good that your partner will also "pull back" a little and adapt to your calm tone of voice.

Focus on the goal.

When both points of view are on the table, refrain from arguing about who is right, who started and did something wrong.

Ask the question in the room, "What do we want to do with it? How do we want to do it in the future? What exactly can anyone do now to solve the problem?"

Use humor.

Sometimes it can also be helpful to react with humor. However, this depends on whether the partner perceives this as relaxing or as not taking the reap.

For example, a comment such as "Stop, before we continue, I have to put on my knightly armor first" could ease the tension.

Get out of the situation if your partner continues to yell at you and treat you inappropriately.

It could be that at times your partner has already "booted up" so much that you cannot get in between.

Or you can't keep calm yourself. Then it can be very helpful if you first break off your conversation and get out of the situation.

Then just break the conversation down with a sentence like, "I don't think we can find a solution now. We'll talk about it again later" and go to another room.

However, you should definitely come back to the topic later or agree that it is no longer necessary.

Together with your partner, look for similarities in their dispute behavior.

Usually there are general sore points in every partner that keep getting upset.

At a quiet time, when you and your partner are in a harmonious mood, it can therefore make sense to look at these points and think about how to deal with them differently in the future.

It is quite normal for there to be conflicts in a partnership. It is also important that we talk about differences of opinion and disappointments.

What is crucial, however, is the way in which we do this and that we then let go and be reconciled.